EITHER teach them better if it be in thy power; or if it be not, remember that for this use, to bear with them patiently, was mildness and goodness granted unto thee. The gods themselves are good unto such; yea and in some things, (as in matter of health, of wealth, of honour), are content often to further their endeavours: so good and gracious are they. And mightest thou not be so too? or, tell me, what doth hinder thee?
MARCUS AURELIUS. MEDITATIONS. Book ix. 9.
HIM that offends, teach with love and meekness, and show him his error. But if thou canst not, then blame thyself, or rather not thyself neither, if thy will and endeavours have not been wanting.
MARCUS AURELIUS. MEDITATIONS. Book x. 4.
Bear and Forbear. Either guide them, or forgive them. Note that this doesnt mean we should TRUST them, but that we should not seek revenge or despair at their lack of growth.
ReplyDeleteAll we can do is our best to teach others to behave appropriately. If they exercise their will and choose not to listen then we have fulfilled our obligations. We cannot control another's choices or actions.
ReplyDeleteThis is a wonderful reminder for patience when encountering folks who might frustrate us.
ReplyDeleteI'm reminded of the passage in the discourse of Epictetus when he suggests we view others as our wrestling partners: they benefit us insofar as they challenge us and train our patience, understanding, virtue, etc.
I choose to see life as a wrestling match that makes me a stronger competitor in life.
Great posts.
brett